Defining Moments
So how do we make good decisions in defining moments?
1. Have an ‘Empowering’ Reason Why:
An empowering reason why has to be bigger than any obstacle you are going to face on the way to achieving your reason 'Why'. It's something that you wake up thinking about and go to bed dreaming about. It's the thing that drives your passion.
The best illustration I have for this is my own father who was a P.O.W in the World War 11.
Captured in Changi, sent to work on the Burma railway for years living mainly on 2 bowls of rice a day and suffering many jungle diseases, seeing his mates die or have limbs amputated without anaesthetic would have been cause for many to lie down and die but my Dad lived through amazing odds because he had a empowering reason ‘Why’, which was to marry his sweetheart (my Mum), buy a house and have a family.
What he didn’t know is that his Empowering reason ‘Why’ not only saved his life but also saved my life, my sisters and brothers lives as well as all of our children and grandchildren’s lives.
The truth is a person with an empowering reason ‘Why’ has the ability to effect many lives in an unbelievable way, not just your own.
Having an empowering reason ‘Why’ helps you make right decisions because you have “a cause” and see a bigger picture than the present moment has painted for you.
The Challenge:
What is Your ‘Empowering’ Reason Why?
2. Keep a Positive Mental Attitude:
When things aren’t going our way it is natural to blame things. The only thing is when we are blaming, we are not asking the empowering questions that will bring us the answers. It’s impossible to do both and one brings us solutions and the other blinds us from seeing solutions.
When we blame things we are actually making those things big and making ourselves small which can create a victim mentality. People through blaming, can make themselves a victim of governments, victim of taxes, victim of fuel prices and victims of anything that they blame.
The truth is, every person has a greater overcoming potential in their lives than any challenge that comes their way. You can become the victor not the victim by choosing not to blame, but instead ask empowering questions.
The Challenge:
What Challenges are you facing that need ‘Empowering’ Questions?
3. Empowering Friendships:
John C. Maxwell, who is one of the greatest teachers on leadership today says, “Success in life will always be determined by those that are closest to you”.
The people we spend most of our time with are either taking us somewhere or are just making us feel comfortable. We all need people in our lives that we can be accountable to and stretch us. Most of us choose friends that we feel comfortable with, but the only thing about comfort is that it doesn’t allow us to change.
On a cold winters morning I feel so comfortable in bed I don’t always feel like getting up, it’s so easy just to keep lying there. The only thing is that if I don’t get up I will not have the ability to enjoy and take advantage of all the wonderful potential that day has to offer.
Comfort is good, but it will never help us take advantage of all the wonderful opportunities that are available to us.
Choosing friends that stretch us may be uncomfortable but it will help us make the correct decisions in defining moments of our lives.
The Challenge:
What friends do you have that stretch you’re thinking for the good?
Finally, it’s the decisions we make at “defining moments” that either make us or break us in life. These are the times the results of our decisions are magnified either in the positive or negative. Having an Empowering reason ‘Why’, a Positive Mental Attitude and Empowering Friends will definitely help you make decisions that magnify Your Success and enabling you to finish strong and live an Expansive Life!!
All the best,
Rick
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